Remember when we sat everyone down to explain about the lay off? We asked for help and encouraged all the kids to do their chores, homework and to try to get along with each other peacefully. We asked for cooperation and support so that Dad and Mom could think and focus on what it is we need to be doing. We made a list and everyone decided to "Be Happy".
It's not working!
In fact, it seems worse. Arguments, tattle-tales, sticking-out-of -tongues, and frustrated crying about who gets to watch what or play what. One brother grabbed the other by the hair yesterday.
Everyone seems grumpier than usual, and the people in this family are starting to act-STRESSED.
Maybe it's time for a family meeting about our fears and worries and the stress we may be feeling. We all want to be happy and have faith, but we all also need to say what we really think and address our feelings. I think it may be good to address your fears first, before you can lay them aside.
What exactly are our fears associated with the fact that Dad has no income to speak of?
Are we afraid of becoming homeless? being without food? Of not being able to buy shoes? Being judged? We'll have to think about this.
All the kids also have hayfever that seems to have turned into colds, this on the heals of the bad flu or whatever it was we had in March.
The kids are on each others nerves and this drives me crazy.
Are the days of peacefully playing together gone?
Ah-h-h, I remember the years of quietly reading or doing art at the kitchen table.
Could I suggest that you end the meeting about what worries you and the kids, with a long session about what you are grateful for. Being grateful is an expression of faith--faith and hope chase out fear and despair. "Be still, and know that I am God"
ReplyDeleteAnd then, go doorbell ditching with some wildflowers or homemade cookies so they are reminded that they can do nice things for others.
We love your family--you have been an inspiration and a support to us in some of our tough times. I know you have what it takes, no matter what the challenge--you handle life's problems with real grace.
Love, Lisa